How to: Cope with Failure

There is always that one thing that we really really really want.

But what if a voice inside our head keeps telling us we won’t get it? How can you truly prepare yourself for facing the rejection and reading the letter or email which states that you truly won’t get what you want?

I’ve been playing with the idea of finding a way to prepare and comfort myself when failure comes. We all react in different ways, but one thing we all have in common. It sucks. And people will tell you “it’s okay” or “next time maybe” while for you it might seem the end of the world.

So you have to be the one telling yourself these cliche things. I know in that exact moment you won’t feel like telling yourself positive things so write it down.

Yes, you’ve read that correctly.

Write yourself a letter. Sit down before the deadline or the result or whatever that is your are waiting for and write down all the reasons why you are so much better, all the things that could have gone wrong and comfort yourself. Only you know what is it that you want to hear in those exact moments so use it. Do it for yourself. So when the time comes you will be able to help yourself. When you are writing the letter your brain is clear it’s still positive and you tend to be able to make up reasonable explanations for the things. Whereas when you get rejected you see everything negatively. Combining your negative brain with the positivity on the paper will help you get over it. It’s true.Those words will be your own. They will speak 100% the truth. Therefore you cannot say someone is trying to comfort you or lie to you. And since there is no point in lying to yourself this is the best way to cope with failure.Even if it doesn’t work for you. You can give it a go? It only takes 15 minutes to write a letter to yourself and it might save you a few days of feeling miserable.It’s your choice.And who knows? Maybe you will never actually read it. Because you won’t fail. Still by writing it out on a piece of paper will help you reduce your fear caused by the waiting period.It is truly a win-win situation.

5 thoughts on “How to: Cope with Failure

  1. Great article. I experienced a huge failure this year (at least it felt that way) and sometimes I feel like I’m still recovering. I’ll definitely try this advice. Thanks for sharing!

  2. I was fearing to start the blog, that I would never write great content and that what’s waste my 2 years.

    Since now, I would forcefully do what I want and learn from the failure.

    Thanks, Miya!

    1. I’m so glad it helped you! Failure helps you grow if you accept it and learn from it and not take it by heart. It’s another valuable lesson we all have to learn!
      Good luck on your blogging jorney 😘

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