Toxic people are always present in our lives. They are the ones that are constantly negative, and the ones who suck away our positivity. They are the type of people, who make us feel sad, depressed and who make us see the world black and white. Usually after seeing them or meeting with them, we take on their negativity. They literally drain us out. Suck away our feeling for life and make us miserable. That’s how they feed.
We all have those. One or more. But they are present.
You are not alone with them.
So what can you do about them? How can you get rid of them?
- You need to identify them
You can’t really do anything until you don’t find out who they are exactly and how they are affecting your life in a negative way. Once you realize who they are and what they are doing, you can start eliminating them.
2. Start by doing test runs
As for everything in life, even when you want to eliminate people you need to do a test run. See how they are behaving when you are happy, and when you are sad. Make sure they are truly toxic, and that they are the reason for the negativity in your life. Be careful with choosing the right people.
3. Cut the dosage
Start by meeting them fewer times, and distancing yourself from them. This might be hard, since they can often be one of your closes friends. But once you meet them less, you will see the positive changes in your life.
4. Don’t burn the bridges
Toxic or not, seeing the new positive changes, that are born from removing people in our lives can be dangerous. It makes us want to speak up against those people, and confronting them. Don’t go there. There is no need for getting into a fight, or blaming others. They might have their own reasons from needing to make others feel bad. Just ignore them, and let them be.Of course, if they are your closest friends, you might offer your help and tell them they can talk with you. But that won’t end well. You need to realize that they are toxic for a reason, they keep on saying the same story, they see everything negatively, they have a problem with everything. And they are never happy for you.
Do you really need these people?
No, you don’t need someone like this. We all complain, but if someone has not one good word in an entire conversation for a long period of time, there is no need for you to try and convince them otherwise, or try and help them see the world in different colors. Some people, are simply incapable of that. And that is not your fault. Not even closely.
So don’t blame yourself, for needing the distance.
You deserve the best of the people around you, and ultimately it is your decision who you spend your time with. So if you choose to be with people who make you happy, and with who you can have fun, instead of the ones who constantly complain, it is your choice and you are entitled to make the call.
Just don’t make a big fuss of it.
If you find yourself in the wrong story, leave.